Hey heyyyyy!

Picture this: Your friend is begging you to go to the bar this Thursday. But you have a test on Friday and you know you need to stay up and study. So you stay in, and you proceed to see tons of snapchat stories of your friends at the bar. It looks like so much fun, and you wish you went.


Honestly, this situation happens to me so much. But, what about the times I don’t want to because I’m tired or not in the mood? What about the times I would rather stay in or do something else? There is such a stigma around the idea of the “right” college experience and how we should go out.

Yeah, you should experience college and parties, etc. Even if you never have before, I do think you should try just once. But if it’s not your thing, then that’s O-K. If you aren’t in the mood, that’s O-K. Yes, college has parties. But, the main point of college is that you are independent and learning educationally and about yourself as well. It’s a growth journey, and yes independence means parties and bars, but it’s so much more than that. It’s learning things you actually care about and it’s making amazing friends. It’s the events you go to, the random movies you watch with your roommates at 2 am, and the connections you make with your professors. The internships, the traveling, the ability to grow into yourself.

When you really think about it, the only thing that is lame is doing things you don’t want to do. You deserve to spend your time doing what you enjoy doing. I think we tend to overanalyze what we should and shouldn’t do, and I think we should spend a little more time just acting and not thinking so much.

When you really think about it, college is how one spend their independent free time. Go out if you want, but if you’d rather lay inside and watch a movie or go out to a show, that is your time to spend. Whatever is the most worthwhile to you and whatever you like to do, college allows you the opportunity to do that.

And I hope you do.

XX, Mads

Madison Brandt